They might look like „My partner is not used to taking himself by himself, so I`ll end up doing it for him” or „I cook, and she usually washes the dishes.” In theory, none of these things are so important, but if you`ve never talked about them and just thought that`s what the other person wants for you to bet on, then you have a silent agreement — and that could undermine communication in your relationship. Although the parties negotiated for several months, excise payment agreements remained silent. Pernod was legally required to pay excise duty to the government on manufactured goods such as bottled wine delivered to Lion. The question for the High Court was whether Lion had an obligation to reimburse pernod for the excise duty. The total tax on bottled wine provided under the distribution agreement was more than $US 10 million. „Fear is a formidable silencer that holds back a vulnerable commitment, the absence of which leads to deep and painful complications. The authors of Silent Agreements discover this widespread phenomenon with great clarity and offer a well-thought-out process that allows for sharing and healing based on truth. We recommend this book to anyone who has conversations in their head, which they keep to themselves. Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D., authors of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples”The informative authors of Silent Agreements offer insights into how we can approach and resolve these tacitly difficult problems between us and others without fear. You will help illuminate new avenues of understanding and promote open communication in all your relationships. I recommended this very useful book to anyone who was committed to creating happy and healthy relationships. Katherine Woodward Thomas, New York Times Bestspoken Author of Conscious Uncoupling „What a conclusive and revealing look at how agreements we think are rarely accepted and accepted by the people we want to understand the most, because of what is never said…
